Remember the true definition of compatibility? Learn how to STRUGGLE TOGETHER so that you can experience true intimacy. Then ALL combinations of types have a fantastic chance of having a phenomenal relationship - romantic, platonic, familial, professional, or otherwise. Learn about their own respective autopilot patterns,Īcknowledge that they have blindspots and flaws,Īnd take personal responsibility to work out of reactivity, If both of y'all are doing the work and become more flexible and grounded (instead of constantly triggering each other), y'all will do just fine.Īs long as each person in the relationship is willing to: The simple answer? Anyone who's willing to do their personal work, so as long as you are also willing to do yours.ĭoesn't matter what Enneagram type y'all are - that just shows some details about how your respective autopilots show up and interact with each other. Is your family member or leader willing to do the work or not? (Because this is not just for romantic relationships!) Is your partner willing to do the work or not? Whether a particular POSSIBILITY becomes an ACTUALITY is up to you. Our Enneagram type doesn't dictate the ending - it just reveals the possibilities. The Enneagram shows us a map pointing to where we COULD go IF WE DO and DON'T DO OUR PERSONAL WORK. The Enneagram is not a horoscope system to see what kind of day we'll have or what our fate will be. We were all meant to grow beyond our coping skills. Unlike how the Enneagram is used nowadays (in pigeonholing people and trying to find what type of holiday gift to get each type), it was originally intended on revealing to us our blindspots and shadows in how we get ourselves stuck (and pull others into our muck in the process). Our Enneagram types tell us what path of inner work we have. If we stay inside that tiny cage, there's no room for another whole person - just whatever pieces of them "fit" our idea of how they "should" be.īecause we are still WHOLE persons, regardless of whether we're willing to acknowledge that, we're in for a rude awakening when the rose-colored glasses come down (because they will) and we realize that WHOA - this person is NOT who I signed up to be with. If we cling to our personality types (for example, by being proud that we are a certain Enneagram type, we are staying inside that tiny cage and are wondering why our hunched backs are aching. But the very cages that have protected us from scary things when we were young are the same bars that keep us stuck when we've grown up and don't need the same protection anymore.
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